What’s wrong with this picture?

16 11 2008

Can anyone tell me why John Lewis are selling Christmas trees this year that can be mounted upside down? Anyone? Why - please tell me, why?





Books revisited

23 10 2008

Way back in May last year, when this blog was only just starting, I posted a list of the pile of part-read and unread books by my bedside. Nearly a year and a half later, most of the boooks are still there. Let’s revisit that list:

The Cloudspotter’s Guide, by Gavin Pretor-Pinney
A Christmas present from  a brother. Was about a third of the way through, and generally enjoying it though it wasn’t exactly gripping so my enthusiasm had waned. Still haven’t touched it (except when moving the pile for hoovering!) so I think it’s time to admit I’m not likely to and shelve this one.

How to Talk to Anyone, by Leil Lowndes
A very American self-help book for self confessed shy people. Cheesy, yes. But I have made use of several of her tips when in social situations (which I can find hard work at times. Yes, I’m shy at heart although very few people believe me when I try to tell them that). I had read this before and it was by my bed on a second outing. I may still dip into it from time to time.

The Case for Faith, by Lee Strobel
Recommended to my wife  by a friend, and I made a start on it once she’d finished. I’d really like to have another go at this one.

Roadcraft: the Police Driver’s Manual
Read it before. Was re-reading. Will stop now. (But I do thoroughly recommend it!)

Is God to Blame?, by Gregory Boyd
Lent to me by a friend after I first very publicly admitted I don’t understand why we pray. (Stood up and asked the question “so why do we pray?” in the middle of a sermon!)  I simply never got round to reading it and gave it back eventually.

The Baby Whisperer Solves all your Problems, by Tracy Hogg
Christmas present from Rachael’s Mum. Rachael read it all. I read bits.

The Holy Blood and the Holy Grail, by Baigent, Lee and Lincoln
Bought in a charity shop after I’d enjoyed the Da Vinci Code. Still haven’t opened it.

From Birth to Five from the NHS.
Freeby dished out at the hospital when you have a baby. Never did read it all, but I guess it might be worth another look now Ainsworth is nearly 20 months old!

And needless to say there are umpteen other books I have read in the meantime. The God Delusion, of course, and I’ve made a start on The Dawkins Delusion (OK to keep hold of it a bit longer, Andy?). Most recent read was Ben Elton’s latest, Blind Faith, which was a great read.

And just this weekend I’ve picked up copies of Mark Haddon’s A Spot of Bother and The Shack, which my minister Dave has recomended. I’ll have to read  that first as it’s a library book and there’s a waiting list so I won’t be able to renew it.

Er, Bible, anyone?





“There’s probably no God”

21 10 2008

Back on Facebook, but I’m glad I am because a friend has just sent me a link to this story that I might not have seen otherwise.





Facebook break: so far, so good.

16 10 2008

It’s now been five whole days since I’ve looked at Facebook or updated my status. The first couple of days I was absolutely itching to sneak a peak. That burning desire has faded a little, but I’m still dead curious to see what everyone’s been up to and what sort of response my absence has provoked if any. (I’m imagining a couple of sarky comments about whether I’ll actually manage to keep off it for the week, as I know I’ve got a bit of a reputation for being on there all the time.)  I do update my status far more often than anyone else I know on there. And indeed the instinct to whip out my mobile and send off an update by text has been hard to resist. I’ve also missed getting texts with other people’s statuses on. (I get very few texts from anywhere else so updates are a welcome distraction!)

But I was thinking about it on the way home from work today: has the absence of people’s statuses, and not seeing what others are saying about each other, actually made any difference to my day to day life. No, of course it bloody well hasn’t. But even so I’m not intending to extend my break, because I do enjoy what I see and do on Facebook. My “friends” on there are are a mixture of people: those I have little real life contact with and know only vaguely, those I once knew quite well and had lost touch with, and many who I see on pretty much a weekly basis. And what I love is simply seeing little glimpses into their lives that I can’t imagine knowing for any other reason - and likewise sharing little glimpses of my life with them. It is sociable, and friendly, and I like it.

So, on balance - I’ve missed it this week so far, and am looking forward to logging back on on Saturday to catch up. I will try to be on there just a little less from now on though!





Church website: the way forward

15 10 2008

I mention somewhere on here that I maintain our church website. Way back in the beginning I taught enough HTML to code the first version of the site by hand and eventually got hold of a copy of Dreamweaver to do subsequent versions.

But for quite a while now the site has been in need of an overhaul, and I’ve felt my web authoring knowlege too out of date to do much about it. It’s also always been entirely dependent on me and me alone to update the site and I’ve not lately been very good at keeping up to date. So last night I finally met up with a couple of others from church: one of the church leaders who overseas various aspects of the church’s communication and another member who runs his own web-hosting company and is generally pretty up to date with all things internet. And what we came up with for a way forward (well, what our technical chap came up with and we agreed) was to rebuild the site from scratch using Joomla. He’s started putting together a basic template and is going to import content from the current site to get us up and running, I’m going to learn how to use it along the way, and we’re going to give a variety of people access to keep different areas of the site up to date. We’ve already got a couple of other keep helpers lined up for when we’re ready to use them.

But while we’re doing this we’re trying to re-think a few aspects of what we need on the site and what’s just a waste of space. What could be improved, and what is missing. So if anyone out there reads this and wants to make any suggestions, do feel free to pop over to the current site and let me know.





A day in photos

15 10 2008

What was that about a post every day this week? Well, as I didn’t have time yesterday I thought I’d just post a link to my recent “day in photos” on Flickr.

The day started like this:
This is when it all started

And ended like this:
And my day ended with a bit of telly.

And if you’re interested to see the rest, the whole day is recorded here.





God of relationship.

13 10 2008

It’s not something that’s entirely new to me, but what Dave tried to explain to me the God is a God of relationship. The mystery of the trinity - Father, Son, Holy Spirit working as one, being one God yadda yadda yadda - is the ultimate demonstration of realationship, and that is the image of what God wants for us. To be in relationship. With him, and with each other.  Now I’m not going to pretend even for one moment to understand the Trinity (I recall that St Francis wrote 14 volumes on the subject and his conclusion can be summed up as “I haven’t got a clue what this means”) but Dave did enlarge on one aspect that I can just about grasp.  The whole story of the gospel is about relationship broken and a route back to relationship restored. And if God is a God who is about restoring relationship, then surely that’s a God worth seeking. Well, yes, but there is an if at the start of that sentence and I’m struggling with the whole is there a God question, let alone what type of God is there. I suppose you can’t have one question without the other.

We also talked about relationships and friendships in general, and I seemed to surprise him with my assessment of my own friendships. Perhaps that’s a subject for another post.





A facebook break (and a bit about God)

12 10 2008

I’ve just embarked on a week’s self imposed break from Facebook. I’m not going to say I had got addicted, because I’m sure that’s too strong a word, but I was on the site an awful lot, and lets face it most of that time was time that could have been spent better elsewhere. I guess I could have just decided to cut the time down but last night I made a fairly spur-of-the-moment decision to simply go cold turkey for a whole week, just to prove to myself (and my wife!) that I could. So, I updated my status (”Trevor is taking a week off Facebook. See you next Saturday”), and switched off all email and text notifications. I’ve been itching to take a peek all day to see if my status has provoked any comments, but have managed to resist so far! One real-life friend has told me by text that there are a few comments already - which made me want to look even more, but still I resisted.

One of the many things that have taken a back seat to Facebooking is blogging. Both this blog and our family blog have been much neglected and I know I do have occasional readers on both for some reason or another, so I’m sorry if I’ve kept anyone waiting. I’ll aim to use a little of the time I save by not using facebook to post here every day for the next week, and on the other blog at least a couple of times.

So anyway, where was I? Oh, yes… I was wondering whether there’s a God or not.

I met up with my minister for a coffee on Thursday. (He paid. Thanks, Dave.) I’d wanted to catch up with him for a while to ask about one thing in particular: the appropriateness of me taking an active part in the Sunday services (I play drums in the worship band) when I really can’t honestly say that I believe in God at the moment. The question was triggered by my wife asking me whether I thought it was appropriate. I’m happy with it, and don’t see it as a problem, and I was pretty sure Dave would be happy too, so I’m very glad to confirm that he did indeed confirm this.

Of course we also talked on wider issues of belief and doubt while we were there, and it was a productive and thought-provoking discussion. For one thing, I’m also glad to report that my minister doesn’t believe in a God who chooses to guide one car away from a multiple pile-up for reasons of his own choosing. (See my last post for context.) I still haven’t fully got my mind around what type of God he does believe in, but the key issue seems to be about relationship. I’ll try to explain what I think he means in my next post. And then maybe he can put me right.





A load of superstitious nonsense

8 10 2008

Sometimes I think about what I have professed to believe and I do wonder whether it is simply a load of superstitious nonsense. I hear things, read them, speak about them, and think that just can’t be true.

Prayer is such a complete and utter mystery to me that I  wonder why I bother. Come to think of it, I don’t bother, apart from on Thursday mornings with my prayer triplet (the other members of which know how I feel) and very very occasionally in the vestry before a Sunday service.

Here’s a little thing that’s been buzzing round in my mind. At the same meeting at work that I mentioned in a recent post, someone told the story of a relation’s near miss in a car accident. Two cars immediately ahead collided, and my friends relation managed to swerve clear to safety before the car behind him crashed straight into the pile-up. This was, apparently, “absolutely God’s protection”. I said nothing, of course, but inside I was thinking: “What?! How can that be? You mean God saw the accident about to happen, and was able to act, but decided to rescue just this one car and let the others get on with it? Did God only have enough love for one car? Or enough power? On what grounds could a loving God possibly choose who to rescue? And where was his love for the others?” And so on.

And here, I think, is a key issue for me. Since I stopped believing in a God who intervenes in the day to day occurrences of life the way my friend at work clearly believes God does (and I’ve mentioned before that it’s my minister who gets the credit for starting me on this path), I’m left with a gap. What sort of a God, if any, do I believe in?





Another affliction

2 10 2008

I recently mentioned that I experience vibranxiety. Another discovery today: I also suffer from lethologica.